Average age for kids to start dating

03 Sep

Ray Guarendi As a family psychologist, I am often asked by parents when their children should begin dating. Let’s suppose that you’ve decided to begin dating discussions when your daughter turns 16.

They usually hasten to inform me, “All his (her) friends are dating.” My quick answer is: When they’re married, and only with their spouse. Now back in the old days — the early 1980s — you met resistance for such a decision mainly from the children. You can’t wrap a moral bubble around them; they have to deal with life. A recent survey suggested that if a child has a first date between the ages of 11 and 13, he or she has a 90% probability of being sexually active during senior year in high school. Key factors to consider in granting any type of dating freedom are your child’s: • moral maturity • independence of thought • history of conduct in other social settings • strength of will • social judgment • choice of friends • responsibility toward schoolwork • respect for authority.

My 12 year old daughter has asked me when she can start dating.

First, the definition of dating is different these days than it was when you and your husband were younger.

Dating customs have changed since you were a teenager.

The recent trend among early adolescents is for boys and girls to socialize as part of a group.

They march off en masse to the mall or to the movies, or join a gang tossing a Frisbee on the beach.