Dating and remarriage after divorce

14 May

Most remarry after divorce because they’ve fallen “in love.” When you’ve got the baggage of a failed marriage, children, and financial issues, is being in love reason enough to remarry?

That same chemistry is there, and you find yourself in a position to consider remarrying your ex-spouse. As with all marriages, the answer lies in what both partners are willing to do to make the relationship work for the long haul.

I began, first of all, by being troubled that the absolute form of Jesus’s denunciation of divorce and remarriage in Mark –12 (“And he said to them, ‘Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery against him’”) and Luke (“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery”) is not preserved by Matthew, if in fact his exception clause is a loophole for divorce and remarriage.

I was bothered by the simple assumption that so many writers make that Matthew is simply making explicit something that would have been implicitly understood by the hearers of Jesus or the readers of Mark 10 and Luke 16.

Mary White’s husband, Devon, suffered from early Alzheimer’s disease and died when he was 51.

They were married for 30 years, the last five of which Devon didn’t say a word—until his final day, when he called her name.